Welcome to my survival information, put collectively after years of experiences.
The thriving 30-year-old has, with utmost religion and valiance, conquered battles aplenty previously three many years of her trail-blazing existence. You assume you might know her, however there’s much more to her than meets the attention.
On a frosty winter night time, fairly typical for Toronto, I cozied up on the sofa, enveloped by the heat of my self-care sanctuary — the revered ‘Kitaabistan’ library lounge. Piece by piece, a treasured memoir reel of the previous three many years started to unwind. The miraculous highs recognized far and huge and plummeting lows veiled by alternative in all their magnificent glory and melancholic glum, recollections unraveled earlier than my eyes.
My twenties had been undeniably ‘roaring’, maybe sometime I’ll inform my story for the world to know while settled beneath a canopied sky embedded with stars earlier than a crackling bonfire, engulfed by its golden glow and immersed within the serenity of a desert. Nonetheless, proper now I’m penning down with all my coronary heart and soul a survival information for strained souls.
1. Heartbreaks are inevitable
The one One who is not going to break your coronary heart is the One who created it.
2. Tyrants will likely be accounted for within the hereafter and justice will prevail
Whereas the guts shatters as darkness triumphs over gentle and justice has seemingly waned, keep in mind, battles could also be misplaced on this world however a daybreak will finally emerge and justice will likely be served.
3. Observing the enjoyment of others mustn’t provoke envy
The considerable miracles of Allah are distributed as per His divine knowledge, no creation is disadvantaged of His generosity. Subsequently, the miracles and milestones of one other’s life ought to reinstate hope within the wonderful manifestations of destiny.
4. Inconveniences of life and emotional turmoil are the foundation of destiny’s plot twists
We’re the authors of our story; nonetheless, we are likely to overlook that Allah is the editor Who tweaks the plot and its characters. Subsequently, if a chapter emerges which is unappealing, sorrowful or traumatic, know that the Editor has tweaked your kismet for a miraculous ‘happily ever after’ to manifest!
5. Introspect, humanise and humble your self
Our being is merely a speck of mud in The Almighty’s universe. To guage others is solely for Him to do.
6. Watch out for self-importance for it might probably provoke destiny
Our blessings replicate Allah’s divine mercy, subsequently, being excessively pleased with one thing that’s not wholly ours is sheer ignorance. Always remember that destiny can flip a pauper right into a princess and a princess right into a pauper.
7. Don’t commerce the non permanent world for the everlasting hereafter for it’s blatant foolishness
The Creator observes His creation while kismet exams them with tempting alternatives of achieving fame, fortune and love immorally. For a believer, it requires immense non secular power to refuse such alternatives. Regardless of ideas of ‘falling behind’ on this world plaguing you, remind your self that it’s the hereafter the place your standing shall be decreed as elevated.
8. The Creator have to be prioritised over the creation
The love for one more which extends past the love now we have for our Creator brings nothing however ache. The love for one more which bridges our soul nearer in the direction of our Creator will deliver everlasting glory.
9. Prioritisation of non secular alignment leads to conquered battles of the conscience
The story of Yusuf and Zulekha enlightens us as such — from riches to rags one’s kismet should plummet for the soul to find the everlasting love that’s solely devoted to our Creator. Solely then will the human love we had desired be bestowed upon us as a divine present.
10. Testimonials of affection are validated by conduct, efforts and actions
If the guts whispers that you will have crossed paths with ‘the one’, be aware of their actions. The reply lies there. They are going to respect your individuality, validate your feelings and mindfully love you in accordance together with your love language.
11. You’re all the time the principle character of your individual story
Discover how the ‘main character’ of a plot observes the second leads’ love story unravel flawlessly from the sidelines — till their very personal plot twist manifests and all of a sudden, the emergence of their love story is the one which leads the narrative. The universe will align what is supposed for you as per divine knowledge, as soon as you might be able to obtain it.
12. The best act of self-love is the willingness to unlearn and relearn
A skinny border exists between self-love and narcissism — be aware to not cross it and hinder your private progress as a person.
13. There isn’t a obligation to complete what you began
Love your self sufficient to holler ‘NEXT!’ and transfer on when something clashes together with your vibe. Be it a friendship, relationship, job enterprise or perhaps a e book. If it isn’t to your liking transfer ahead. Shield and mindfully make investments your energies.
14. Relationship statuses don’t outline the purposefulness of our existence
Chorus from dwelling within the persistent distress of a previous relationship, settling for much less in concern of remaining single and being anxious about the way forward for whether or not your path will cross ‘the one’.
15. Embrace your single standing, have fun the various dimensions of life
‘Happily married’ or ‘miserably single’ aren’t the one two classes people are to be queasily boxed into. Attaining companionship ought to merely be the complementary caramel syrup topped upon the chocolate fudge cake that’s your life. The remaining cake is so that you can bake and devour to your coronary heart’s content material!
16. Chorus from poisonous positivity, drop your guard and reclaim energy by vulnerability
Share the battles of life which you tirelessly try to overcome. We’re all in it collectively, in any case. Be part of each other’s battalion and fight life in solidarity.
17. Cease making excuses for adverse behavioral patterns; poisonous traits seldom change
You aren’t obligated to keep up relationships with people who find themselves emotionally abusive; regardless of who they’re, the time-frame of relationship or historical past you share. If such people gaslight your resolution to place your psychological and emotional wellbeing first, merely reply, “Apologies if my world isn’t revolving around you, because it is too busy revolving around me!”
18. A phoenix shouldn’t be uncertain of their resilience
The braveness you search is already embedded inside your soul. Halt. Ponder the previous and acknowledge all of the battles you valiantly conquered while rising from the ashes, time and time once more.
19. Private definitions of success are extra important than the opinions of others
Don’t undermine the milestones you have got strived to realize by indulging in self-doubt, no matter whether or not or not society labels it to be a ‘success’. You’re the hero/heroine of your individual story, by no means let anybody else let you know in any other case.
20. It’s okay to not be okay and that too unapologetically
Simply as our bodily well being can deteriorate, our psychological well being can too, it’s regular. In any case, is our thoughts not part of our physique? There isn’t a disgrace in acknowledging our inner turmoil. Expertise, endure and specific — the final of the three is what aids in each the coping and therapeutic course of.
21. Unashamedly breakdown
Warriors too want break day too — if wanted, shutdown and disconnect. Be distant with household and buddies, cancel plans and sleep in, skip the skincare routine, down Nutella sandwiches — do what is going to deliver your physique, thoughts and soul consolation. It’s utterly okay to interrupt the foundations typically. Don’t pressure the therapeutic strategy of loss and grief — it’s a journey, not a race.
22. Oversharing brews pointless battle
As we’re urged to ‘share’ our lives on social media, keep in mind that you’re not obligated to share particulars of your life which trigger discomfort. Be it milestones, profession achievements or private insecurities. If you wish to keep privateness both on social media or actual time, it’s your option to make.
23. Sisterhoods are a pressure to be reckoned with
Establishing a sisterhood inside home, skilled and political spheres is the inspiration of girls empowerment. Stand in solidarity no matter variations in religion, ethnicity or socio-economic background and grow to be one entity advocating for our womanhood on the forefront hand in hand.
24. Superficial magnificence requirements stop girls from shattering glass ceilings
Ladies don’t require unsolicited validation for his or her look. Consciously converse with each other with out obsessively bringing forth look and physique picture. There’s way more to honour about your self comparable to mind, expertise and aptitude. Don’t succumb to gnawing insecurities and refuse to consider that your self-worth is outlined by bodily attributes as a result of magnificence is available in all shapes, sizes and pores and skin tones.
25. Don’t silence the protecting whisperings of your guardian angel
Ladies aren’t all the time overtly emotional. Our sense of discomfort is legitimate and mustn’t ever be dismissed. Instincts and instinct are what empower us.
26. There isn’t a such factor as being ‘too strong’ for a girl
In case your life’s battle scars intimidate a specific particular person into feeling inferior, that’s not your insecurity to are likely to. You’re a warrior. Take satisfaction within the battles valiantly conquered. By no means flip down the notch of your braveness and nerve merely to make somebody snug.
27. As girls, we take our our bodies without any consideration while menstruating and robotically ‘go on’
Give your self a break throughout the cycle. If cravings kick in — indulge, keep house and cancel plans to do completely nothing, postpone work conferences if doable, slack on chores. Achieve this with out guilt as a result of girls’s well being, issues.
28. A girl’s alternative of garments doesn’t symbolize how empowered she is
A girl could be empowered whereas carrying a pair of denims and T-shirt
simply as a lot as she could be empowered in a shalwar kameez with a dupatta.
29. To empower each other, have fun reasonably than compete
It’s critical for ladies to have fun each other with the identical fervor as they acknowledge the achievements and milestones of males. We should reform the problematic apply of girls observing each other as competitors and deal with turning into a group reasonably than each other’s opposition.
30. Setting boundaries now avoids energy struggles later
At the start of any relationship, be it a friendship, marriage or skilled relationship, set boundaries to ascertain desired dynamics.
Unconsciously, all our lives we’re fixated on ‘perfection’. We search happiness within the type of phases of life or milestones to be attained in a sure order to sigh a breath of aid and say “Life is finally perfect!” Nonetheless, that assertion seldom appears to be true as a result of life as we all know it’s something however good — it’s haphazard.
The important thing to unlocking happiness is realising the sweetness in life’s wonderful chaos and consciously apply gratitude for the blessings bestowed upon us, most of which now we have not even uttered a prayer for.
Romanticise these moments, the fractions of time which intricately entwine to create a healthful life. When ‘the end’ of a sure chapter comes, a way of satisfaction will rightfully radiate, honouring the hardships courageously conquered, unconditional kindness practiced and supplied to humanity with out prejudice, above all fulfilling the responsibility to each your coronary heart and soul. With these classes that I’ve realized in my 30 years, I now stride into the brand new decade.
Hey my thirties, are you prepared for me? I definitely am for you!
