Regardless of being known as out for problematic content material numerous instances, Nida Yasir’s Good Morning Pakistan continues to bag headlines primarily based on controversial statements, really believing all publicity is nice publicity.
In a current interview with newlyweds Aagha Ali and Hina Altaf, the platform as soon as once more got here beneath fireplace on social media when a clip of the duo went viral, during which they casually share with the viewers what situations set the bottom for his or her marriage.
“Before marriage, Aagha showed me a picture of someone, who wasn’t me and said if you become this fat…” shared Hina.
“No ji,” protested Aagha. “I said I don’t want anything in this world, only one promise, only one. Please don’t get fat, for god’s sake.”
In a Pakistani context the place expectations of glamourised appearances are conditioned as acceptable components of relationships, Altaf additionally talked about how her husband taunts her between meals, reminding her of the ‘promise’ she made to him.
However why is communication and compromise inside a celeb couple’s relationship, a public condemnation affair?
In a society that continuously places ladies on a pedestal, unrealistic physique requirements have dominated tv screens, Instagram feeds, and our on a regular basis lives like no tomorrow. The brunt of this stress is very confronted by married, and in response to society, plus-sized ladies – who regardless of being all rounders, need to show their price primarily based on their measurement.
It’s deemed pure to criticise, humiliate and sometimes discredit ladies with emotions of inadequacy in the event that they achieve just a few kilos.
With the best way Aagha has demanded, or could I say demeaned, fats ladies are one way or the other much less fascinating and unlovable. Apparently even much less acceptable than the prospect of dropping a whole relationship, primarily based on simply your weight.
Whenever you say issues on nationwide tv in entrance of tens of millions of people that put you on a pedestal primarily based in your movie star standing, you give out the message that it’s okay to glare at your companion’s meals or use coercive, emotional means to maintain a continuing watch on what’s on their plate.
Whenever you snigger it off, you normalise the dynamics of such a behaviour – a relationship primarily based on simply obsessing over whether or not your companion is interested in you. A relationship, the place staying match and wholesome is not inspired as a desire or a norm, however portrayed as a situation or intimidating risk. One generally is a cheerleader and help system for his or her companion of their quest for health, or one can straight up fat-shame – no factors for guessing what this interplay got here off as.
With bodily attraction forming the premise of relationships, change in appearances impacts relationship dynamics in grave methods. So what occurs if the promise breaks? If a girl indulges in meals habits post-maternity, and even as an escape?
In response to Aagha’s rationalization, his concern is as a result of “no producer/ director/ writer would like to have an overweight heroine.” Nonetheless, his justification solely makes issues worse in case you ask me.
Having the sources, the platform and a large fan following, the duo has the facility to advocate for change. To boost vital questions, as an alternative of decreasing the spirits of the numerous ladies watching them.
Does your weight outline your expertise? Is being fats worse than being a poisonous companion, objectifying companion or controlling authority in a relationship?