RJ and actor Anoushey Ashraf could be very vocal in terms of speaking about what she believes is true. Partaking in a really sincere dialog with comic Ali Gul Pir, she opened up about her expertise with a stalker on his podcast. The dialogue delved deeper into the matter and the 2 buddies mentioned abuse allegations by girls and the way males must take accountability for his or her actions.
The newest episode of AGP Podcast dropped on Tuesday. When the dialogue moved in direction of discussing on-line trolls and haters, Gul Pir talked about that Ashraf has had a real-life stalker. “It was very very scary because I had to cut an FIR but there was no other choice. Here, I feel like, you just hear [about it] but it can happen to anyone,” she mentioned. “Somebody killed somebody, somebody got offended and threw acid at somebody or kidnapped somebody. Far and few but it’s not like it doesn’t happen. Why do we feel like it might not have happened to someone with influence?”
Repeating that it could possibly occur to anybody, the RJ mentioned she additionally instructed the man’s household after submitting the FIR. “That too, after [giving him] four chances and they were ‘very sad’. They were like don’t do this but I wasn’t doing it for myself. I could have kept a guard or since I’m from a TV channel, I could have requested security. I was like, he’s not going to do this to me, he will be rid of me but what if tomorrow he does to some other girl?”
She talked about how these girls wouldn’t have the ability to battle again. “And they’re not able to do anything about it — they get harassed in buses, in stores, in salons. They can’t stand up for themselves and no one takes them seriously. Many of their family members blame them for getting harassed or stalked, [saying] that you smiled at them — that’s what the guy said to the police guy. He asked him, ‘Why are you bothering Anoushey?’ He was like, ‘She got off stage and smiled at me so I thought she likes me.’”
Ashraf addressed the truth that girls who communicate up typically face sufferer blaming. “And if I say this, maybe people in your show’s comment section will say when you dress like this and meet men like this, what do you [expect]? My case dies right there. They can stalk me, be a threat to my life but how is it their fault when I’m the one sitting here enticing them. Where do I go then?”
She additionally talked concerning the troublesome place one could be in when somebody near them is accused of harassment. “It’s difficult, I get it. Someone can even blame your brother or your friend — and that has happened to me, I have felt a lot of pain and have faced difficulty in navigating [the situation],” she shared. “But without naming anyone, I’d like to say that the topic being discussed is bigger than any individual, if one per cent of the women are exaggerating the story, I’m not even saying lying ‘cause they’re not lying but if they’re even exaggerating the story, 99 per cent is the truth.”
Including on to the purpose about believing girls, she requested, “How can you deny it? You live in Pakistan, look around you. I’ve seen people beat up dogs. There are people who rape children in this country, why would they not hit women? The odds are too much in favour of the cause for you to not believe in the cause.”
She gave an instance of her good friend getting accused and defined how she would react. “If tomorrow someone says Ali Gul Pir did something and you’re friends with him, what will I do? I will have to listen to your side of the story and make my own decision, it’s very hard,” she instructed the comic. “We just have to speak up in favour of the cause. That has happened with somebody who’s very close to me off television, some girl said and I spoke to him about it. And I was like ‘The least I can tell you to do in this situation is to come out publicly and apologise. Say that if I have ever harassed you or hurt you, please forgive me, I won’t be able to forgive myself for making you feel this way.’”
She additionally shared an expertise of when she was on the opposite aspect of the argument. “Men react with ‘I have never done anything like this.’ This happened with me also when I confronted a friend and said I felt a certain way, [he said], ‘What do you want from me? I will take you to court.’ What would I want from you? I’m the one who will get badmouthed here if I tell people my friend harassed me.”
The 2 buddies talked concerning the want for males to take accountability for his or her actions, whether or not they deliberately made somebody uncomfortable or even when it was unintentional. Gul Pir mentioned proudly owning as much as it is necessary as a substitute of dismissing somebody’s expertise.