Khalilur Rehman Qamar, the self-proclaimed knowledgeable on relationships and ladies, has as soon as once more spewed his regressive views in a current interview. We’re fairly over calling him out as a result of it has little impact, however this time, it was attention-grabbing that he has gone after males — normally his biggest supporters.
In a current episode of The Discuss Discuss Present with host Hassan Choudary on Specific TV, Qamar claimed that folks want time to grasp him. FYI — we’ve given him loads of time, and his views stay as regressive as ever. Each time he opens his mouth, it’s a cringe-worthy expertise that solely deepens our disdain for his outdated views.
On this specific interview, Qamar focused males, his personal gender and those who normally applaud his misogynistic views. When questioned about his fixation on girls in his writings, particularly in works like Aik Sau Taeeswaan, one in all three quick tales in Teri Meri Kahaniyaan, an anthology movie by Hum TV, his response was nothing wanting absurd.
Qamar claimed, “Men are manufactured to be worse than women; you cannot change him at any cost or in any situation. It is a man’s instinct [to cheat].” He even prompt that girls ought to keep on with dishonest males as a result of there may be “no one better”.
The author believes that each one males are cheaters and can’t keep loyal to their companions. We don’t need to let you know how disrespectful that is to males as a lot girls. This sends a troubling message to his male supporters — you aren’t worthy of being trusted.
In the identical interview, when requested concerning the recurring themes of ‘haya and wafa’ [loyalty and humility] in his dramas, Qamar claimed that these values are the whole lot on the earth, but males don’t possess them.
“Males have borrowed ‘haya and wafa’ [humility and loyalty] from girls; they don’t have it of their very own. Loyalty in the direction of girls, he learns it from girls whereas in girls it’s inbuilt,” he claimed.
Qamar appears to assume males don’t have any modesty or humility, and have to be educated — like recalcitrant kids — by girls.
When challenged on this generalisation of males as cheaters, Qamar dismissed the opportunity of change, stating it will destroy the social setup and result in rampant copy as a result of, in keeping with him, “men don’t reproduce.” The dearth of logic and correlation right here is staggering.
Qamar’s sweeping declare that “all men are cheaters” exhibits a scarcity of fundamental respect for males. We can not consider we’re saying this, however #NotAllMen. Not all males cheat and for him to lump everybody into the identical class of infidelity is ridiculous. For all the lads who champion his views, right here’s a actuality verify — in keeping with Qamar, you’re not the honourable determine he depicts. Qamar insists males are destined to betray these they love, telling girls in dedicated relationships to be insecure and by no means to place confidence in males.
If a person can’t even present fundamental respect to his personal gender, there’s little hope for respect in the way in which he treats girls. Whereas it appears that evidently Qamar might not have encountered them, there are numerous males globally who’re each loyal of their relationships and modest. Nonetheless, we see that anticipating Qamar to grasp that is futile.
It’s not as if he has hidden his twisted opinions about individuals from the world. His self-righteous and, frankly, vicious perspective, has been on show again and again, in his disrespectful remedy of Marvi Sirmed throughout a debate concerning the ‘Mera Jism Meri Marzi’ slogan advocating consent, in his immature tweet about Mahira Khan, criticising her for expressing differing opinions, and in his notorious ‘do takkay ki aurat’ dialogue, later weaponised by misogynistic males, are evident examples of his regressive mindset in the direction of girls.
All these cases showcase his lack of maturity in dealing with criticism or factors of view that differ from his.
It’s time for discuss present hosts and media channels to stop offering a platform for Qamar’s dangerous views. His capability to dismiss criticism and trivialise severe points on these platforms isn’t just shameful but additionally contributes to normalising poisonous ideologies.
Khalilur Rehman Qamar might have noticed girls for 40 years, however his self-proclaimed experience doesn’t qualify him to grasp the struggles and complexities girls face in a society that urgently wants to maneuver past his archaic mindset.
This interview is only one of an extended record of troubling alternatives given to him to unfold his poisonous views. This time, we discovered that he doesn’t consider that good males exist, identical to he believes girls aren’t adequate both. It’s about time he retains his damaging judgments to himself and the media stops amplifying his out-of-touch views.