Actor Muneeb Butt has us confused. On one hand, we’ve seen him prepare dinner varied dishes for his spouse on his YouTube channel however on the opposite, he says they don’t have a prepare dinner at his home as a result of the ladies of the household must be cooking.
In a latest interview, the actor was requested about one thing he mentioned that landed him in scorching water — “We have a rule at home that we don’t hire chefs, Aimen cooks because that improves the emotional connection between wife and husband.”
Butt defined that “everyone has their own way of thinking and every household has its own system”. He says he used the improper phrase and “instead of calling it a ‘rule’, I wanted to call it a ‘tradition’”.
“I am someone who likes to carry on traditions. I still stand by this. When a wife cooks for her husband, it not only shows her effort but also her love and care for him,” he mentioned.
His spouse, Aimen Khan, defined, “Actually Muneeb loves what I cook for him and he’s usually on a diet, which I feel not everybody can make [food for]. I have help and his mom cooks as well. He gives me so many compliments for it and it doesn’t take too much time and I don’t do it alone, Muneeb’s mom helps too.” She added that on days when she doesn’t really feel like cooking, Butt cooks for her.
To every their very own, however typically, we surprise if celebrities perceive the repercussions of what they are saying publicly and the way this may increasingly have an effect on their followers. Shouldn’t cooking or working be a alternative for everybody? Calling it a “rule” or “tradition” adopted as a result of they “don’t like putting sense in everything” is harmful. There are tens of millions of people that look as much as Butt and observe what he says. His followers additionally see his vlogs wherein he’s seen cooking a number of occasions, which is nice, however when he says girls should prepare dinner, it tells them that the person can prepare dinner when he desires to however the lady doesn’t actually have a alternative.
His spouse is one in every of Pakistan’s hottest celebrities and to listen to her publicly preach that girls should keep residence to prepare dinner can be problematic. She admitted that she has assist, however not everybody does. Many ladies are compelled to do all of the home tasks and cooking and don’t have a military of workers to assist them. Butt and Khan’s phrases simply reinforce the concept that these girls should slave away within the kitchen, with little assist from their husbands as a result of it’s “tradition”.
A star repeating one thing like this usually evokes justifications for unhealthy behaviour. What number of males will now go to their wives and use Butt’s phrases as justification for not serving to or forcing them to serve everybody?
Butt comes from a household the place his spouse is a working lady and has made a reputation for herself within the trade by her personal onerous work. His vlogs additionally present him to be a useful husband who takes care of his spouse and is open to the thought of doing equal chores, which is in full contradiction to this assertion.
However this isn’t the primary time the Buddua actor has come beneath hearth for misogynistic feedback. In 2021, Butt was requested about his phobias on the Nida Yasir present, the place he turned the query round on Yasir who admitted that she was afraid of her husband getting married for a second time. Butt’s response was, “Yes, you should be afraid of this. All women should be afraid of this and so they should pamper their husbands so that they don’t divert their attention somewhere else.”
He was slammed on social media for this ridiculous assertion and, in response, posted a seven-minute clip addressing the incident. As a substitute of accepting his mistake, he accused a number of “small publications” of utilizing him as clickbait.
The difficulty is much extra difficult than the same old superstar blunder. From what we will see on social media — although social media is not any indicator of an individual’s true persona — Muneeb Butt appears to be somebody who understands that chores must be shared. He mentioned, “I also cook and I’m really good at it.” However then he additionally mentioned solely girls must be those cooking.
We don’t know if the confusion is in what he’s saying or what he believes, however typically public figures have to be taught what to not say. There are lots of people who idolise each him and his spouse, however lack the privilege that the couple have.
For these individuals, Butt’s or another public determine’s, comparable to Sadaf Kanwal’s, ‘opinion’ lifting males up and placing girls down serves as validation for piling all of the work onto girls in addition to a sorry justification for why girls should do greater than males. We don’t want “rules” or “traditions” that perpetuate gender stereotypes — we’d like extra individuals who speak about sharing the burden and equality.
